Nigeria and women leaders

 

Queen Luwoo was once the ruler of Ife. After her death, it was said that Ife vowed never to install a woman as their ruler again.  Luwoo Queen was known as a well organised Queen who took pride in sanitation and maintenance of her environment, yet she was not enough because she assigned duties indiscriminately and the fact that she had unorthodox relationship lifestyle not expected of a woman – had children with more than one man.

Queen Luwoo, according to record ruled from 1770 – 1800.

On the other hand our kings are known to have multiple wives and no one is complaining, one wonders why Queen Luwoo’s lifestyle bothered decision makers.

A few days a go there was a report of Sen. Dino Melaye and Senator Remi Tinubu having a heated debate in the Senate that leads to Sen. Melaye threatening Sen. Tinubu insinuating that he would beat and rape Sen. Tinubu.

In Nigeria,  some of our men were raised to believe their ultimate control is at the tip of their manhood so sleeping with someone they feel is in their way gives them control over that person.

It’s hard to believe any stories from our newspapers but I know that some of our men are extremely insecure around women when they sit at the table.

Now, Senator Dino Melaye in an attempt to tell his side of the story so as not to be seen as a misogynist explained that Mrs Tinubu called her a dog (calling someone a dog means they sleep with anything with two legs) and a thug.

Mr Melaye in an interview said he called Mrs Tinubu “stupid” for the utterances and denounce the threatened to beat or rape his colleague.

And that was supposed to be a credible explanation from a lawmaker who reportedly is hoping to be our president one day – what a clown!

I found the interview painful to read, the arrogance is off-putting but it happens because this is Nigeria.

It is all part of the same bigger problem, from both sides – why must we have people who treat national senate as their family meeting where throwing personal insults rule the day?

Shouldn’t we have a way of screening these folks to live in the present if at all we want to see any progress?

Display of inappropriate behaviour we see at national level happens by design starting from home, community and places of worship but we don’t talk about it as we think educated, powerful women are exempted from sexist attacks – that is far from reality just as we have seen here.

But we forget easily, don’t we? Until next time. In April this year Comptroller General Dr. Peter Ezenwa Ekpendu ordered his aide to slap an MP, Onyemaechi Mrakpor in public because the lady had overtaken him at the exit gate.

We yelled and shouted but nothing was done to set the right tone.

I see many of our people referencing women leaders around the world, Angela Merkel of German, the new UK PM Theresa May and the USA hopeful Hillary Clinton but what we fail to realise was that these women are in different environment whereby steady progress were being made in terms gender equality.

Our women, majority of our women are still left behind, those who know better owe it to others to enlighten and to support. This means that issues that are peculiar to women that no one is ready to talk about but have detrimental effects on families and society as a whole need women support. Examples: child marriage, FGM, rape, pressure on preference for male gender child and a whole lots of others.

When the not so educated are informed, they will be able to support those at the top better.

 

 



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  1. Ah, both stories annoyed me, but what saddened me was that both men occupy reputable government positions, one of them is even a lawmaker. Garbage in, Garbage out.

    Thank you for the history lesson on Queen Luwoo, I had no idea that Ife once had a female ruler.

    The rules that govern both genders seem to favour one more than the other.

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  2. If the men are behaving like bullies and the elite women are so occupied with their wealth and appearance. One could then conclude, we deserve what we get. More importantly, where is the hope coming from? Must it once again come from the diaspora (who hopefully have better values)?

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  3. I agree women will always need to find there voice.

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  4. I have read Sen. Dino’s part. I would love to read Sen. Remi’s…I’m sure somewhere, the truth will show for those of us that were not inside the chambers with them.
    Inbtw: we (representatives of Nigeria) should learn to show proper behaviour and use of words in and outside, that way we are exonerated when the fire starts after the smoke.

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    • Agreed, let’s hope Sen. Remi will see the importance of this.

      Speaking of proper behaviour, you know that if this was between two male senators, they’d be scratching each other’s face off while their aides record the scenes for our muse 🙂

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      • For sure! Because if you read down Dino’s gist, it seems he is reacting to long-time agro “who-do-you-think-you-are?” I’m not taking sides with her for starting the name-calling I actually always expect better from women than men. (my opinion).
        Now according to tory, hubby is asking for apology, soon African Tradition go enter the matter.
        Act 1 scene 2 begins….

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        • See Queen, this is the issue that Nigeria informed women will have to face and honestly so. I don’t take the side of Mrs Tinubu either because I believe our women leaders from all of our regions are letting us down – being quiet on important issues isn’t the same thing as being respectful.

          I am glad you read that article, see when I read to the part where Sen Melaye was going on and on like a little toddler on past disputes, I felt ashamed that we have someone like him (I bet they are plenty there) making decision on our lives, can you believe that?

          I suppose it is natural for spouse to want to defend their other halves side, hence Mrs Tinubu’s husband stepping in. However, if Mrs Tinubu is worth her salt as a role model, Mr can say whatever he likes, this one is her ‘fight’ to give Nigeria women who look up to her, her side of the story.
          Or else she could keep quiet, then we know she’s only there because of ‘long leg’

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          • LOL…A voice to the women, I pray for that day earnestly. I know it is here regardless of all these issues. I truly hope she responds and it is sorted out. Enough of bashing and battering in the Senate. I wonder what became of the other case with the lady that was slapped. Thank you my President.

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  5. I knew I would get to read about this drama from you. Again it happens and again the cycle continues…lets see if this will end differently.

    hmmmm

    Hello, my President.

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    • Good morning, my Queen. Knowing our people I don’t think anything will change unless we make deliberate efforts to include women, not just any women for numbers’ sake but those who believe women as integral part of society need to be equally represented for the benefit of us all.

      I actually give credits to those women (the good ones) up there sitting on table with our men (as colourful as they come from north to south) 🙂

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  6. Fola, women won’t get anywhere without a fight. It has to be a fight of the wit. Many years ago we had a woman mayor in Ottawa, Charlotte Whitton, who once said. “Women have to work harder, be smarter than any man and fortunately, that is no problem .”
    Leslie

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  7. Reblogged this on Adejokeiyabadan's Blog and commented:
    Display of inappropriate behaviour we see at national level happens by design starting from home, community and places of worship but we don’t talk about it as we think educated, powerful women are exempted from sexist attacks – that is far from reality just as we have seen here.

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      • Ideally every woman should be exempted from such attacks. If we have to start somewhere, why not start with high profile women (at least people will see and hopefully learn).

        What Senator Melaye said is unacceptable and he should be punished he could be suspended without pay for (6 – 12 months) and a deputy can replace him.

        Queen Luwoo sounds as if she had a mind of her own, ‘good for her’. The fact that she values hygiene and sanitation stands her ‘head and shoulders’ above the rest of Nigerians (even successive generations haven’t quite grasped that basic fact), who appear not to value those important things.

        At last count we have 36 states, and we can’t even muster one female governor. Pity for Nigeria!!!!

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        • Thanks jco. Public humiliation like this is quite common in Nigeria in all areas, the one disguised behind religion is worse. I once wrote about a professor who slapped a school headteacher in front of the whole school, he made reference to this event in front of hundreds of youths and says he’d do it again.

          Female governor? For this to happen we need women who can raise awareness on important social issues, what we have now at the top would rather we focus on their bling.

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