Queen Luwoo was once the ruler of Ife. After her death, it was said that Ife vowed never to install a woman as their ruler again. Luwoo Queen was known as a well organised Queen who took pride in sanitation and maintenance of her environment, yet she was not enough because she assigned duties indiscriminately and the fact that she had unorthodox relationship lifestyle not expected of a woman – had children with more than one man.
Queen Luwoo, according to record ruled from 1770 – 1800.
On the other hand our kings are known to have multiple wives and no one is complaining, one wonders why Queen Luwoo’s lifestyle bothered decision makers.
A few days a go there was a report of Sen. Dino Melaye and Senator Remi Tinubu having a heated debate in the Senate that leads to Sen. Melaye threatening Sen. Tinubu insinuating that he would beat and rape Sen. Tinubu.
In Nigeria, some of our men were raised to believe their ultimate control is at the tip of their manhood so sleeping with someone they feel is in their way gives them control over that person.
It’s hard to believe any stories from our newspapers but I know that some of our men are extremely insecure around women when they sit at the table.
Now, Senator Dino Melaye in an attempt to tell his side of the story so as not to be seen as a misogynist explained that Mrs Tinubu called her a dog (calling someone a dog means they sleep with anything with two legs) and a thug.
Mr Melaye in an interview said he called Mrs Tinubu “stupid” for the utterances and denounce the threatened to beat or rape his colleague.
And that was supposed to be a credible explanation from a lawmaker who reportedly is hoping to be our president one day – what a clown!
I found the interview painful to read, the arrogance is off-putting but it happens because this is Nigeria.
It is all part of the same bigger problem, from both sides – why must we have people who treat national senate as their family meeting where throwing personal insults rule the day?
Shouldn’t we have a way of screening these folks to live in the present if at all we want to see any progress?
Display of inappropriate behaviour we see at national level happens by design starting from home, community and places of worship but we don’t talk about it as we think educated, powerful women are exempted from sexist attacks – that is far from reality just as we have seen here.
But we forget easily, don’t we? Until next time. In April this year Comptroller General Dr. Peter Ezenwa Ekpendu ordered his aide to slap an MP, Onyemaechi Mrakpor in public because the lady had overtaken him at the exit gate.
We yelled and shouted but nothing was done to set the right tone.
I see many of our people referencing women leaders around the world, Angela Merkel of German, the new UK PM Theresa May and the USA hopeful Hillary Clinton but what we fail to realise was that these women are in different environment whereby steady progress were being made in terms gender equality.
Our women, majority of our women are still left behind, those who know better owe it to others to enlighten and to support. This means that issues that are peculiar to women that no one is ready to talk about but have detrimental effects on families and society as a whole need women support. Examples: child marriage, FGM, rape, pressure on preference for male gender child and a whole lots of others.
When the not so educated are informed, they will be able to support those at the top better.