Nigeria special religion of rigidity

Whenever Nigeria politicians had to quote religious texts to proof anything, it is clear they had no tangible excuse not to give whatever that was presented fair hearing so the easiest way out of not doing their job is to *’Nigerianise’ the issue.

So it’s the case of gender equality bill that the senate conveniently refused to pass last week as the content violates their personal bible and Quran.

To begin with, I doubt all of the senators, especially the naysayers read the information in the document at all. They do have to, all it takes is one or two senators to read and show his disgust to the fact that women dare ask for more legalised freedom to be a person of their own, fair treatment and equality in social justice – that’s just too western idea.

If we can’t solve misogyny from homes, neighbourhoods, social gatherings (i.e church and mosque), what chance do people have to get anything gender-parity related passed at the senate?

Nigeria as a whole seldom agrees on any issue at the same time, but when it comes to misogyny, most men would choose to keep women around them silenced as their ego depended on it – this often receives unanimous approval.

Like so:

I still could not believe how this guy get to be the Senate President, incredible Nigeria.

This Prof confidently narrated an event where he slapped a female school head teacher to show his supremacy above women around him. He shared his story with hundreds of young adults in the hall totally oblivious to the message he is rubbing off them. All I could think as he boastfully talked about his education and influence was:

“Baba, make sure you keep your oversized ego in your Ibadan neighbourhood.”

The Prof is a Muslim, it can easily be Christian or any religion. Nigeria tends to agree well, well, that their only obstacles in life are their women.

Christians are a bit subtle compared to our Muslims, they do have their way of imbibing in the young female that they are indeed subordinate – scriptures command.

In our traditional holy ghost, tongue speaking church, teen boys are not only encouraged to play musical instruments, but make it more like a right of passage for them. In the same church, girls are not allowed. I have always thought perhaps because most girls are at home helping with chores but I recently learnt that it is another scriptures’ command that girls are exempted.

This should have been parents’ problem right from their home. If I go to a church, I don’t see myself in gatherings where children have been told to ‘know their place.’

Too much damage is done right from home, parents who believe all genders should be giving equal opportunity must be involved and guide their children where their confidence is not shadowed.

On the senate gender equality bill, one of the issues raised in the document was clear and enforceable inheritance law especially for the widow and children left behind. This is a very important issue that everyone has to deal with. Traditionally, there is a way of settling inheritance but it is widely known especially in southwest that the loudest gets all.

I have seen a situation in my town whereby shortly after the husband was killed in a car crash, the brother without wasting anytime took over the older brother’s business and put plan in place for the wife to move out of the family house he assumes it was his brother’s property. Here there was little regard to the three children in relation to what their father properties.

Why would any lawmaker thinks this is not worthy of attention?

Out of 109 Senators, we have just 7 female members, and yet my people get super rigid and too tranced to look at our reflections in the mirror. What we have in the senate is a clear reflection of our society. If we want it any other way, then our mothers and forward-looking fathers must do their job from home and community.

 

  • Nigeriansise = sexism, tribalism, bigotry, religion, corruption.


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10 replies

  1. This not just a Nigerian problem… It is a HUMAN Problem… Women being perceived as equal to men in every right is simply just always “Work in Progress”, with different communities reaching various stages of evolving into being more accommodating of the notion with passing time.

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    • I agree, gender inequality is a human problem. From what I have seen around me, Nigeria one is on a much bigger scale compared to many nations with the number of educated women.

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      • You think?? Hmmmm…. I guess in a lopsided way, ‘educating’ more men than women might help more… LOL

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        • I see your point Yas. However as much as I believe gender disparities have negative impact on Nigeria women and Nigeria as a whole, I think our solutions have to be custom-made to our regions, we can not go by one hat fits all solutions.

          In the north, the women who are educated and understood better must step in and educate others especially with child marriage and all of the ugly aftermaths consequences that leads to the obvious problem we call tradition.

          In the south, we have almost equal number of educated women as men, however, we have serious problem of class more than I have seen even in Britain, but our people didn’t realise that this is not benefitting anyone i.e if all rich girls get quality education, it benefit us all that all girls get one. If I wouldn’t let my 10 year old be a house keeper in 2016, then as a women, I am not getting one to look after my kids etc. If I wouldn’t allow my teenager to be molested, then I would not shy away from dragging my inlaw or whoever out if they molest neighbour girl – in the end it it will all go round.

          As for the men, I have never see a situation when an oppressor had a change of heart willingly, why should they?
          It will be tough, little and consistent progress is what we need, when the women change, claiming what is rightfully theirs men will change.

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          • VERY WELL SAID!! “Little and consistent progress is what we need….,” From my experience, especially in the north here, I find that the ‘enlightened’ women are quite indifferent to the situation of the other women. When the women (don’t) change, claiming what is rightfully theirs,… the men will continue to have a field day with the status quo.

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            • Thank you Aboki. I totally agree with that indifference of the so called enlightened but what they don’t realise is that it is that once they step aside, all women are perceived same way. I can not say it is any different in the southwest – same, same.

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  2. Fola when I read your post I was doing a slow burn of fury.
    In my grandmother’s day she was considered nothing more than chattel. Then a woman, Nellie McClung (1873-1951) wrote a book called “Sowing Seeds in Danny”. She was one of the first feminists in Canada. In 1876 A British common law ruling states that “women are persons in matters of pains and penalties, but are not persons in matters of rights and privileges.” In 1916 women in Manitoba, Canada were given the right to vote. It started to happen province by province. In the USA women got the vote around 1920. We are still fighting for our rights and I fear under certain people this could all come to an end. You don’t get your rights by sitting back and letting men decide what will happen.
    It is foolishness to think that half the population is a non entity because of gender. Don’t ever give up the fight, because a flight it is indeed. The most effective way is the teaching of our children – both boys and girls.
    Leslie

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    • Thank you for the inputs, very much appreciated. And thank you for the mention of Nellie McClung, I heard of her encouraging works long ago but haven’t read any of her works. Just looked through amazon kindle, there are loads and at affordable prices as well!

      I agree totally that this whole barring of equality bill is foolish, and I also believe that those who take pleasure in others misery will never agree to let them ‘loose’ unless the ‘victims’ unite and find a way to take what is theirs – hopefully soon, we will get there in Nigeria.

      By the way, plenty of my people can’t take their eyes off your new Prime Minister, Justin Trudeau – comfort is coming from somewhere albeit from far, far away.

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