Pedophila: Protecting children

A few months ago, there was a story of a Nigerian guy serving a long jail term in a USA prison for raping his nine year old daughter.

The story goes that Emmanuel Ngene, like many Nigerians relocated to the States in the ’80s and subsequently returned to Nigeria for a wife. They had 3 children, wife and children lived in Nigeria until 2007.

From the same year that the Emmanuel Ngene’s family joined them in the States, his nine year old reportedly had been raped by the father, in 2008 the mother took the young girl to the doctors as she had been physically abused by the father and had marks on her body to show, at the same visit, the girl told the medical team how her father had been raping her. Full story here.

After the legal proceedings including cross checking to be sure the girl’s story was not made up to get her father in trouble (I am not sure why a nine year old girl would ever do that), Mr Ngene was served a long jail sentence.

The trial court entered 15 separate judgments. The court sentenced defendant to four consecutive aggravated-range sentences of 300 to 369 months imprisonment for the four counts of first degree rape; three consecutive aggravated-range sentences of 300 to 369 months imprisonment for the three counts of first degree sex offense; four consecutive presumptive-range sentences of 16 to 20 months imprisonment for the four counts of incest; and four consecutive presumptive-range sentences of 16 to 20 months for the four counts of indecent liberties with a child. Defendant timely appealed to this Court.”

Both Mr Ngene and his wife told different stories. The little girl’s story is consistent with the findings of medical team – she has been abused, raped consistently through out her short time in the States.

Mr Ngene said she was raped in Nigeria where they moved from whereas poor girl gave details of how her father had raped her. Mr Ngene said his wife had been complaining about how her expectations of the US was farther from reality, so she was getting back to him by making the girl lie.

A few Nigeria news papers that carried this news managed to look past the poor girl that was violated by the person she trusted the most. The focus was on how women brought to the USA changed after they have gotten qualifications and financially independent.

And the most ‘intriguing’ comment I read was that ‘our men don’t rape, that is not our culture’ – that is where I thought we have a long way to go if people who have access to the internet and presumably some education are still this much deep in denial.

In this January alone, leaving aside adult rape, I have listened to a 3 year old girl talking clearly about her uncle raping her, the mother shared the video on Facebook, she wanted to raise money to prosecute the uncle. Another one of a 4 year old raped by a neighbour. And another one whose wife caught him in the ‘act’ with his 3 year old daughter. The list go on.

The depravity is insanity. It breeds contempt especially if these children receive no support from general public.

Too many cases that is sad because the country has failed to realise that Paedophile sometimes has family and even if they have more than one adult sex partner, they will still prey on children including their own.

I believe Cindy’s story (the USA girl) and I am glad that she has moved to a country where Paedophile especially when it is a family member attracts maximum punishment.

I wish Cindy all the best in the future.



Categories: Family, Health, Myths I grow up with, Nigeria, Women

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18 replies

  1. Thankfully justice was done, no surprise that it was America that stood for right.
    Hopefully, the victim will get her life back on track.

    It is very troubling to read that Nigeria is a haven for incest and other forms of sexual abuse. Things sadly don’t seem to be improving or if so at a snail’s pace. This is my understanding of emotan77’s piece on this topic. To read that the most educated and privileged are some of the worst abusers is disheartening.

    This confirms what I already suspected, religious people are no better than non-religious ones, the same vices still occur amongst religious people, they just sweep it under the carpet and use denial to claim innocence. To say that ‘such things don’t occur in Africa, or it is not our culture’, simply doesn’t hold true.

    We need to inspect our personal values and decide what we stand for, not hide behind what the society accepts. I don’t believe 90% of Nigerians even know what this means, if they did the picture would be a whole lot better.

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    • “I don’t believe 90% of Nigerians even know what this means, if they did the picture would be a whole lot better” – I do not doubt this jco. This is why we feel so uncomfortable talking about it and comes the saying ‘but you still have ‘it”

      The ones that happens within the family is most disgusting as victims especially kids are forced to get along with people they despised – so the poor child gets taking to the priest to cast ‘devil’ out.

      Also, it is the same reason Nigeria has two different laws when it comes to age of consent/marriage – south 18years old – north, 13 (or something close) this is what Senator Yarima quoted during his saga.

      Therefore, in reality what is saving many people is education, commonsense and simple decency so whoever lacks any of these do whatever they liked as there is no law to prosecute them.

      If women, especially encourage to share details of abuse, put it on air so lots of Nigeria gets to see how devastating this can be for the victims, attitude will change over time. As long as we keep quiet, no hope.

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      • Given the scenario, what you outlined seems the only way forward, even though it is painfully slow. Yarima, can’t use religion or culture to justify suffering in certain locations. Despite the law saying 18 years is the minimum age of consent in the south, we know this is not followed especially in the rural areas. People have to go beyond the surface, to really root out this menace.

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  2. It’s pathetic. Pure madness on the part of the father.

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  3. Read about the story on Facebook, it was a different picture that was painted. I pray for justice for every victim but prevention by me, by you, by all parents and all responsible members of the family is better than cure.

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  4. This is so troubling, Fola. As mothers we have to watch out for our children.
    Leslie

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  5. I am glad the girl now lives far from Nigeria because if she were here, what she will probably get would be stigmatisation, insult and heartache from even the law enforcement agents.
    In Nigeria, the victim gets the blame for being raped!

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  6. Dear Folakemi,

    It is some relief that rape cases, which many used to say were not true, are finally coming into the open. Incestuous ones, which were as rampant as the cases we read about in the West, would, perhaps be even more in settings like Nigeria where polygamy, presence of extended family members living under the same roof or in big compounds, would tend to have males and females living in close proximities.

    Far too many evil practices remain buried or shrouded in secrecy owing to the same reason that held rapes hidden in Western societies for long: females’ fears of being ridicled, fears of tearing families apart and fears of being the ones that get blamed for males’ criminal behaviors.

    After all till today, in Sharia-ruled Muslim countries, women are routinely murdered for “adultery” while the male participants, including those who rape their female domestic servants in Saudi Arabia, are not treated the same.

    Speaking out in the West started the present situation of rapists getting their just rewards while getting raped women, especially girls, chances to receive counselling. That is why the increasing cases of clear rapes – a deluge awaits in Nigeria’s work places where male bosses, especially in the high-salaried service sector (banks, communication, et cetera) see you g women who serve under them as part of their perks – coming out in the open are in the right direction.

    Such must keep on being exposed.

    Regards,
    Tola.

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    • Thank you Mrs Adenle. I even read somewhere that one Mallam or Alhaji a few days ago was sent to jail for rape, a progress but we need more.

      I am glad you see this issue as is. Our family settings (uncles, cousins etc) crammed in one room and yet we bury the obvious threat to girls …

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