Keeping our business in house

Black women and hair do is a sensitive subject, the more one tries not to talk about it the more it flares up. I have read in amazement different arguments around this subject, I say to each their own, that is if you are an adult but for children it seems unnecessary when a little child is allowed to have a big weave or extension on and again, it is the parents’ choice not mine.

What I have seen from experience is that for children it goes beyond what we see on the surface. Children are generally happy with who they are. Children who are in class with mates from different race will be inquisitive and wanted to know more about the others, the moment parents give in to straighten a child’s hair is when the little one begins to question other aspect of their being – not sure why we have to complicate what is perfect.

TJsotomayor seems to me like tough love guy. It is clear that he was talking about African America women especially that he compares women love for straight long hair to ambition to act like white women.

Oh well, politics of black women hair is beyond acting like white women given that Nigeria is pretty much homogeneous in terms of race and still this video clip rings true home.

I once attended my little nieces school and was amazed at the hairstyle most of the girls had on – perm and extension, these were under 10 years old and in a country where most hair is fairly of similar texture. The problem is really the parents and least the child issue.

I have heard people saying that other women who don’t wear weave are the problem because the moment one is supportive of an activist such as this guy, it just means one is pulling sisters down, oh well. I believe people who spoke out should be the least of our worries, those are the ones that truly cares. Maybe one day, we will all together find a better way to accentuate our beauty in the way that our natural hair is not concealed.

The video below is the ‘nicest’ of many that TJsotomayor made on black women and weave. As blunt as this one is, I think he is a good person looking after his own race, calling everyone to pay attention.



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18 replies

  1. Thanks for sharing this. I learn a little more each day of your country 😊

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  2. They say ‘imitation is the highest form of flattery’, well then this could mean that women with naturally Afro-hair are paying the ultimate compliment to their straight-haired sisters. They desire straight hair so much they would even hide their own hair under a wig or attach ‘extensions’ into their own hair to give the appearance of having long hair that constantly has to be brushed back to prevent it from covering the eyes, or tucked behind an ear. Or to have that feeling that you can sway your head from side to side and your hair majestically flows through the air. Some people have resorted to putting harsh chemicals on their head to ‘relax’ the hair to give it the appearance of being straight. Does this sound like flattery to you? Or has this gone beyond flattery and is venturing into the realms of disliking oneself.
    The Melanesian women, whose hair is similar in appearance to Afro hair, they seem more comfortable with their hair. Maybe something to be learned by women of African descent here.

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    • Beautiful photo, thank you. I hope more Nigerians learn from their cousins on the other side, our imitation has gone beyond flattery for sure…

      Oh well, I am not even sure which one is better relaxing or weave? The prayer is that God will open folks’ eyes to see they are just perfect the way they are. I am surprised Nigeria ministers have not picked up on this, if those that bleach skin won’t make heaven, what happens to that wear weaves or relaxed their hair? That would make a great church sermon.


      • Since I’m not a big fan of religion, I’d say that ministering to people about their health is ‘ok’, but using the threat that Heaven will be withdrawn from them should they ‘bleach’ (their skin) or ‘chemically’ alter the natural state of their hair – to me is uncalled for and isn’t based on any fact. That is not far from bullying.

        Afro hair or straight hair, both are beautiful, this is a message that has been lost for some decades.

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        • It is incredible how mind can be twisted, there are increasing number of women embracing their natural hair now, hopefully the number will keep rising.

          Well, the reference to ministers was a joke, I guess I wasn’t clear. A Nigerian lady pastor (wife to the most famous church in the land) last year said bleaching is tampering with God’s work, that was her way of discouraging folks from bleaching, I ranted about it here as I see it as no church’s business and if church must then give facts about risks of skin cancer than arbitrary reasoning.

          The joke was that if the church self appoint to police skin bleaching, why is weave/relaxing any different?


  3. I honestly don’t get the big fuss with the unnecessary hair do for young children. If they start at such tender age for big hair do what will happen when they are older?

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  4. I was not aware of this issue. Thanks for the post.

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