So a little birdy told me about Emir of Kano’s 18 year old new bride – not too bad, its only 36 years old age difference.
My people argue tirelessly on whether or not 18 years lady is old enough to make decision on marriage especially a royal bride where one’s life is pre determined.
I know getting out of secondary school at 18, the last thing on my mind was to be someone’s wife, let alone ‘baba ban gbesi’ Well, that was me.
I also know that when Kate and William got married a few years ago, the reason they were able to change history of British royal succession was because they were both adults who knew the damaging impacts of gender inequality in society, because of decision they made before having children, now their daughter Princess Charlotte will be a Queen before Prince Harry had chance to the crown.
I hear my people saying, that was the British. We are Nigerians and different – yea, of course we are!
18 years old who has spent all her years being catered for have no idea what she is entering to so very likely to nod her way into many things that are not in her best interest
I heard Emir’s decision to take on a 4th wife is in line with his Islamic faith – all good, I can also hear my royal families in the south saying their decision is because of tradition – yeah right.
Oh well, one of Oba Okunade Sijuade’s three surviving wives is in her 40’s, and according to the tradition she is not allowed to re marry, however she can be ‘inherited’ by the new Ooni (this is if all the ruling houses ever agree and choose one person).
My all time favourite Yoruba royal father with a swagger is Alaafin – likely that the age difference between the new wife and the king is well over 40, the king turning 77 in October and word on the street was that the young woman was 17 at the time of marriage last year.
Unlike many of our royal families, Alaafin carries all his wives whereever he goes with the attitude of ‘let them say‘. Here he was enjoying the British chill, in front of Buckingham Palace, perhaps waiting to see the Changing of the Guards – if that wasn’t fun, what is?
Now back to the Emir of Kano – Something that keeps coming to my mind – if this is about keeping in line with the faith, why not marry one of the divorcees that we all know are plentiful in Kano? Less than 2 years ago over a thousand women were married off in a state sponsored mass wedding – just saying.
Now I wonder how the Emir who is educated and has been preaching importance of education since his coronation going to keep up with this important message given his recent nuptial.