Neither Nigeria First Lady Madam Patience Goodluck nor Mrs Aisha Buhari will be elected, yet, one of them will have enormous power to make positive change in the country especially amongst women.
We have seen pretty much what Madam P is capable of for the last eight years in Aso Rock, most notably for the last four years. Madam P as I see it is very energetic lady who could have done a lot better given the opportunity thrown at her, instead she played the stereotypical role that Nigeria women only concerns was for their bling bling – this is noticeable in many overseas trips in the name of claiming women rights aka National Council of Women’s Societies (NCWS) and of course First Lady’s attitude towards the mothers of kidnapped Chibok girls was to say the least abysmal – who does that?
I do not believe people change just by keeping them doing the same thing they have always been doing, so Madam will continue in the same path and we can shout and yell – hope for the best.
On the other hand, little is known of Mrs Aisha Buhari. She comes across as shy. I am not sure if this has to do with religion or her nature. Nonetheless, she has made efforts in a few public speeches that I have watched, very clear and concise – relatable even.
So in the off chance that Mrs Aisha Buhari becomes our next First Lady – lots of work ahead. If I were a First Lady of Nigeria married at 19 years old and grandma at 44 years old. Here’s what I would do. I will not waste any second of my time hunting people picking on my age of marriage because let’s face it FLON is not FL of Northern Nigeria so people in the south would pick on this fact – nothing I could do about it.
If I were Mrs Buhari, I will own up to my story and educate myself about the diversity of Nigeria people – not relying on word of mouth but get out to meet people.
What I have read about Mrs Buhari that I found incredible is the way she has improved and continuing to improve herself in all fronts (studying for MA Intern’l Affairs and Strategic Studies) – this to me is very important and reflects in the way she relates to people.
There are so many ways to make improvement and be a role model to Nigeria women, one could be starting from immediate door step – Vesico Vaginal Fistula and high divorce rate in northern Nigeria. Sometimes it is easier to deal with issues that one knows best.
No one is expecting a quick fix for all of our social issues, but a role model First Lady would choose a project she is comfortable with and execute it as passionately as she could for the benefit of all.