Nigeria: When gender inequality goes beyond the surface of skin tone

Prejudice is damaging – it kills motivation and self-esteem. Children especially are likely to believe it is true so end up living their lives creating walls around themselves when they realised stereotypes ingrained at home is manifested in the society at large.

My old guy was excited as he just returned from the village to collect his yearly palm oil from Mama Monday, although palm oil from my father’s farm is no different from any random one bought from the market but there is a little sentiment attached to.

“That woman is hard-working, dependable and always sticks to agreement” My father talked fondly of Mama Monday.

Then my father went on about this woman and how she spent most of the time in the farm going from one chore to the other and how she is a fantastic mother because her children were at school.

So I said “Is Mama Monday like Iya Dele from where we used to live long ago?”

“O ti gba tan!” – “On point!”, my father enthused.

Iya Dele, like Mama Monday is an Igbo woman who was our neighbour in the 80s. She has a vegetable farm (akuro). As it’s the custom for many Igbos in the area, both of their husbands were palm wine tapper (ademu) which means their work is seasonal so are around a lot during the day.

There is a stereotype of Igbo men being drunk, this is where that came from, well from my observations.

Now, I am getting clearer picture of what I have been thinking about for quite some time – Gender inequality in Nigeria affects every woman in the land, however, breaking it down, people are always quick to single out Yoruba and Igbo women for comparison.

Even when both have the same education, exposure and material wealth – for some reason, igbo women are seen to be better in everything – they are stronger, more fashionable, cleaner, more beautiful and ha! more romantic so make better lover.

How true is this, and how much of it has just been as a result of repeated stereotypes based on false claims?

My old guy just spent a few minutes describing all women that I have grown to know. Most women in my village are in the farm all day while their men often in time return to the village for news and lunch.

So Yoruba women have similar workload and no credits for it from their men, why?

So when a friend who is a Yoruba but has lived in a few continents given father’s job read some very skewed views on Yoruba women when compared to their Igbo counterparts – he wanted to know if that was true as he’s been away from home for long and he was sure none of the attributes were true of his mother.

“It’s all stereotypes that has got out of hand.” And from what I have learnt, they were propagated my men – Yoruba men not for anything else but for their ego.

It is complicated but unless we can go to the root of all this, many more women especially Yoruba will waste their lives chasing shadows just so they can feel more accepted by their men.

US is a very good example on this, everyone knows it is a false notion that the fairer skinned you are, the brighter or more beautiful one is but yet fair-skinned folks get more attention for just about anything than their dark-skinned sisters – it’s damaging – time for Nigeria to get hands on Dark GirlsOr our own Nollywood version of the same to raise awareness?

The reason for the fairer skin for many Igbos isn’t a rocket science given the presence of the European explorers in the early days.

If our history – the true ones were taught in schools from primary level, stereotypes like this would have been put to rest long ago.

Tradition of Ada in Igbo land can not be ruled out as a contributing factor that has empowered women in that region, this is evidenced from the lifestyle.

It starts from fairer skin tone of a region, and from there it gets way out of hand. And instead of women uniting to fight gender inequality together, already there is a bias within the same gender group – women allowing themselves to be put against one another making less to none progress on the real battle – closing the gap of gender inequality.

Like many of our challenges, unless we can see Yoruba vs Igbo women from the perspectives of those that bear the brunt of the unfounded attributes – we will continue to glorify the stereotypes.



Categories: Africa, Myths I grow up with, Nigeria, Women

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7 replies

  1. I read through this article thinking of the book I read recently Half Of A Yellow Sun each time you mentioned Yoruba or Igbo. Great post by the way and you are right, women lose the plot and don’t unite but instead find a reason to divide amongst themselves. sad indeed 😦

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  2. It’s not just stereotypes, it’s that in combination with ignorance on all sides.

    For instance many Yoruba I’ve met think anything East of the Niger is Igbo, which is not true, nearly half the population are non-Igbo, ie Ijaw, Efik, Ibibio etc. Similary, many from the East, think anything West of the Niger is Yoruba and Bini, overlooking Ishan, Fon, Igbirra etc.

    And for the North, many in the South , think anything North of Lokoja is Hausa/Fulani, this ignores the fact that the North is the most ethnically diverse region.

    These broad brushes used to paint various regions of the country then make it easier to stereotype people, this tends to overlook a key feature that every individual is different. Rather than hold onto prejudices from a distance, if we took the time to get to know someone close up, we can arrive at a more accurate conclusion.

    FK, I thought it was the Western region where the Europeans first landed, they had the first exposure to Western (European) education, and so hold all the records for the first primary school, first secondary school, first university, first students to qualify as professionals etc. This means the European presence there is more established than elsewhere in Nigeria. The fair skin attribute, I’d say is down mainly to genetics and mutations.

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    • You captured the three dimensional Nigeria perfectly. Even many adults of several degrees don’t know any better and it is not that people are incapable of learning, just that it is not properly taught at school in the way that we will remember, and also to appreciate our country.

      I think this is partly because we don’t travel for leisure within Nigeria, usually it is for business and we stay with family rather than explore the a new place.
      This is for also true for many in diaspora as well – not everyone but for majority.

      Not sure where the Europeans went first but remember that the guys that came to Yoruba parts were the Semesi (CMS) which is today Anglican church and for the SE it was the Catholic. Who knew maybe many of their mistresses actually went with them from the SW to settle in the SE?

      Genetic mutations? That’s another way of looking at it. Oil discovery in the are is fairly recent but the earlier entrant of the explores sounds a bit likely – let’s keep digging 🙂

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  3. Another wonderful piece from, I like this part:

    If our history – the true ones were taught in schools from primary level, stereotypes like this would have been put to rest long ago.

    I think it also true that women allow themselves to be put against each other.
    As much as we clamour for gender equality in our governance system and a Lil percentage of women are given the opportunity, most often seen as favor from the male folks, isn’t it surprising that on getting to power these same women promotes partriachy as they become surbodinates of their godfathers, benching women to praise singers&supporters roles in campaign programmes.

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    • Yo daa fun in!

      That is very true. And notice some of the few that managed to squeeze in – appalling behaviour, if they are not down right agent promoting the sameness like the petroleum minister lady, they’d be the diarisgod – nothing to do with grammar, it is the attitude towards fellow women that is plain wrong – power craze hence she’d recruit like-minded women.

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