I am always fascinated by the number of people who would talk about how smart their mothers were and same people would require plenty of convincing that women in general should not be seen as less of because that is just not true.
Since I didn’t know any of my grandparents, I was curious as what my parents thought of their own mothers. Rather than my mother giving a yes or no answer, she responded “Moomi Abeni, omo k’ulodo” with the look that suggested …need I say more? Those were praise words that Yoruba would only give to people they greatly admire.
My father talked about his mother as being quite young, in her early 50s when she died of something that sounded preventable. However, he talked about my grandmother as a resourceful mother. That it was after she was long gone that the family realised how much she took on. The drama of her passing was largely based on debates of how to divide those ‘little’ things she did amongst seven people.
So really, they both had great mothers.
I have been blessed with many men, nephews, in-laws, countless of uncles and of course my father etc they all boast about how great their mothers were so why do we have a society where value of women tend to be reduced to being sexual partners?
A few weeks ago, I was chatting with my nephew who is 21, he said something that was largely stereotype about women’s ability so I ask him, “would you say your mother is like that?” He hesitated and said a firm “No.” I assured him to be free to put me in my place but here his mother is my sister and he can be honest if truly my sister was the way he described other women. At the end of our talk, he saw sense, well at least that was the impression I got.
You can imagine my excitement yesterday when I came across this video clip of Peruvian women doing amazing job to send message home. Mothers of recurring sex offenders were approached to participate in the campaign to stop men harassing women on the road.
Now I know everyone in Nigeria is religious and yet we have high rate of rape and harassment by children who claimed their parents were just the best.
So rapists and those whose preferred way of have good time is to take mickey out of women of all ages around them are really not alien from outer space, they are people who pretended to be one thing at home and a completely opposite when on the road – out of sight of parents or family that could caution them.
Watch the reactions of these guys in Peru when they realised it was their own mothers they were catcalling…
The reaction of this Mother-son interactions on the street of Lima, Peru is very similar to what would likely have happened say, if filmed on a Lagos street.
Tackling sexual harassment and rape case need every mother to tackle it right from their home.