Reincarnation of a Yoruba girl

It’s fun to dream. Being raised in a society where the belief that humans would be given a second chance to come back to life was huge, gives room for imagination to go wild.

The usual tale goes that by the second time around one would have a choice to tweak certain things they’d prefer to be different from the previous live.

So here goes how I would love to come back.

Most tales I heard was about coming through the same parents, since I love my parents, that is easy part. Also, I would stick to my gender too but this time I will be sure careful about location.

Let’s see… if I had to give being Hausa/Fulani a go. This wouldn’t be far fetched given my father can easily pass for a Fulani and mother Hausa. I know having the same parents, they wouldn’t be from a royal family so no princess-y treats for me.

Thinking more of ME now as this is what it’s all about – I wouldn’t want to have blood of anyone in my hand like the case of 14 year old Wasila Tasi’u who became the 3rd wife of 35 year old Umar Sani of Kano. Wasila had it all about being on sex time table at a tender age, she gave up so poisoned Umar – sad indeed. Now, Wasila faces death penalty as the request to move her case to a juvenile court was rejected, case adjourned to February.

I can’t trust myself not to be another Wasila if I were in her shoe. So, no thank you to the north.

Now, as I wait with he creator, I would give southwest a good thought – been there, done that. I will have to think deeply here as the pull likely to be strong. Then, I’d remind myself of an event of years ago when my father was having his very own mid-life crisis and said to me that he’s sorry he can’t buy Christmas clothes (wearing new cloths is important to children as it is their only festive gift) so instead he bought my two cousins new outfits. My father’s explanation then was that, they were boys and may turn out to be his only hope in old age. Cousins were both a few years younger than me and lived with my family at the time.

So, I’d say, I know things were different now – all jolly, but why must one had to deal with that nonsense – so no thank you.

That leaves me with Igbo. I still will not be an Ada. My older sister is well-suited for that role as she is calm. My mother would have been Ada, so great, in present life, she plays Ada role but none of the credits. I loved the ripple effect of Ada tradition. So ripple effect that trickles down will be enough. 

As we say – B’ori kan ba sunwon a ran’gba – One ‘good’ head effects two hundred.

Seeing things differently from what they are is fun, allows for creative energy to flow.

Categories: Africa, Humour, Myths I grow up with, Nigeria

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15 replies

  1. As usual I love your posts. Tell me what you think of this link. I wonder what it will inspire you to write. It has nothing and everything to do with this topic and more.

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    • Thank you for stopping by Mike. What an incredible bio you have which lead me to Oyotunji, African village – their passion to keep Yoruba tradition alive is inspiring.

      On WAA – thank you for the link. Such a wonderful site showing the other side of Africa – the people and diverse lifestyles. I will be checking the website, seems there’s loads of links highlighting different parts of Africa worth visiting.

      I can’t believe Nigeria is not listed (yet :)). I know we are chaos, we are working on our safety + security issues, w’ll get there. Hopefully soon.

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      • Madam FK
        You will find Nigeria listed indirectly on the site.
        Under this:
        Look for
        Under that, Afro-Brazilian architecture
        Under that Travel-agency Nigeria

        But you can’t blame foreigners not wanting to visit, what with the insecurity, crowds, filth and bad management. People want a pleasant experience and value for money. Other African countries have been in the “tourism business” a long time, and have better reputations. In short it is an uphill efffort required by Nigeria.

        Hope that helps.

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        • Oh no, not blaming foreigners at all, my comment there was more like tongue in cheek – Even for Nigerians visiting home, it’s never holiday, one has to focus on reuniting with family to enjoy any visit.

          And you are right that we have a long way to go to attract visitors, security and safety is one major issue, value for money is another. Many west Africans nations i.e Gambia, Senegal are way ahead of us.


          • Yes, the Senegalese, have mastered the art. People, I’ve spoken to always talk highly of the place. Even Ivory Coast is now bouncing back. Kenya has slipped a little because of Al-Shabab, but Tanzania, Zambia, Botswana, Namibia and of course South Africa are in the premier of league of African tourism (south of the Sahara).
            Ghana has a good rap, visitors like the place and some African-Americans have even chosen to settle there.

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            • And The Gambia as well, lots of Europeans go there for the nice beach. I was there in 2004 (how can I forget given tsunami disaster) I was amazed and the ease of travelling around the country was far better than home country.

              Ghana transformation in all area is incredible, I can’t believe that there was once a time when I was little that they were all around me doing whatever comes their way to make ends meet, now we are the butt of our own joke – Ghana must go, much!


  2. Came across this awesome piece while trying to put an end to the day’s reading, I can go to bed now after a good read of supposedly reincarnation but a cultural enlightened piece.
    As always kudos Yeye mi

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  3. I learn so much from you my friend Even in this story of what if? You teach us about your culture! Bless you my friend and may your imagination and love take you to wonderful places! Heart to heart Robyn

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  4. I’ve been reading you recently, i love your write-ups and the way you write. Well, i will like to come through the same yoruba parent cos i love ’em and they really made me. Yoruba has a very good culture, especially the moral values, except for those people that flies at mid-night and just don’t want to see you do good. Good work ma’am

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    • Thank you mcdaface – appreciate the kind words. Glad you are rooting for your background 🙂

      Ha, what can I say? You know, I get to make all the decisions so I am coming with the same parents – can’t leave these guys as after 54 years of together, I know they fitted perfectly – not a smooth ride but happy now.

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  5. I heard about the case of Wasila, but I doubt if anyone will learn the lesson, that 14 year olds are not meant to be married. They may end up killing the poor girl, but the men are undaunted in their desire for immature females.
    If children’s opinions regarding themselves were heeded and men realised they don’t have absolute power over anyone else even theirs or other people’s children, then we would have learned something. But the way things are going this girl may end up dead like her hubby and other men will continue on as before. The only proviso, is that they insist their wives eat the food first, before they do. So much for trust!!

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    • I am hoping that next month the judge would have a change of heart so as to try Wasila in a juvenile court, at least her case could be give holistic view rather than wife killing husband view of now.

      Whatever happens to Wasila, I believe she has set a precedent on this. It may be the tradition to molest female children but because we are in ever changing time, if the tradition is allowed to continue, then, the trend of children revenge likely to continue.


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