Black woman – Whose hair do you wear today?

Black women and their hair journey is personal. Each person has to eventually find a new definition for what makes a beautiful hair. As it stands today the most attractive hairstyle for many black women is what their natural hair is incapable of.

A few years ago I met up with a friend for lunch, being a joker that he is, as I approached, the first sentence he uttered after the usual greetings was “Hey, who are you wearing today?” “My Brazillian cousin.” I responded.

I am yet to see the ‘perfect’ relaxer for black hair that wouldn’t turn hair to flakes. You are meant to feel more confident when your hair is relaxed and silky but this is short-lived and leave one feeling anything but confidence after a couple of weeks – if you are lucky your scalp survive the harsh chemicals.

Black women for the last decade have gone to extreme measures in search for the perfect hair. Plastic extensions is no longer enough to give the long shiny hair we so much hope to increase confidence, this time our sisters sought for human hair that looks natural on the original owner but of course alien on black women head, we don’t really mind though as long as it is from ANY human, we’ll go for it.

It used to be Indian, Brazillian, Venezuelan and all that remotely looked Chinese. Now, here is the new twist that I think black women must pay attention to, people are spending hard-earned money buying Goat hairall in the name of searching for long long hair. Rats are pretty much easier to come by than goats, how long will it take before we started wearing rat’s hair?

Given that most of these synthetic and human hair are made for Africans by non Africans – Maybe it is time to step back and think about whose definition of beauty we are fulfilling. Does this person cared a hoot about health implications?


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  1. I saw these videos, which gave me hope, as I was feeling disappointed with black womens preference for NaOH (sodium hydroxide) to weaken the curls, or a hot comb to straighten it, or even worse a wig or weave-on.


    These gave me hope, that all is not lost on black women’s heads. My niece has abandoned relaxers and is transitioning to natural.

    All hair types are beautiful, if it is too much trouble for you, follow the tradtional or Islamic way ie cover your hair.

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  2. If your hair is more silky you are more confident? That´s news for me. Ha, I don`t have that problem…..because I´m getting bold!

    The trials and tribulations women have…… 😉

    Very interesting post as well as the others. Pretty cool to read different cultures, always learning new things.

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  3. While you get property rights for your write up, I need one for all the goats in granny’s barn o. Goat hair? I use extentions or braid the hair but my natural hair is cooler

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  4. Great write up! I have a neighbour now undergoing chemo for breast cancer and it does change how people perceive hair is to be worn. Now, if ever rats get their fur shed to make wigs (horrors!!) I will remember, your blog and give you due credit for thinking it! 🙂

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  5. Goats hair? That is beyond the boundaries.Thanks for the information,very fascinating!

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  6. Education is the key. We need to educate ourselves about our hair, it’s versatility as well as vulnerability.
    Until then, we will always give ourselves excuses why we can’t carry our natural hair.
    Especially our daughters; they are not in tune with their natural hair and are losing their front hair as such a young age.
    Yes, hair is a personal thing but at least, let’s teach our daughters about the beauty of natural African hair and if they decide, when they are older, to perm it or wear a weave, then that’s up to them.

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    • Thank you. I feel sad seen little children with hair pulled with extensions, parents defend their side by saying they wanted it, but the truth is how could a child wanted it if you haven’t made them believe that is the only way they could look beautiful. Yes, we owe it to our daughters to teach them self-love from early age.

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  7. To say thank you for connecting with me on Blogging 101. I truly enjoy reading your articles on issues of culture and the Nigerian lifestyle. It’s educating and btw you made me have closure on my cousin’s matter 🙂 for these and more I appreciate.

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  8. Goat Hair? That will be going to the extreme. Well, I do use synthetic extensions to my husband’s disapproval (he likes only my natural hair). I think that most African men will rather have you look natural with your own hair but it’s not usually practical for most women. I think that moderation and Common sense are needed as the search for a more beautiful ‘you’ continues.

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  9. Thank u for writing this post. For years, my hair was dyed, fried and extended. After going through chemo in 2008 and going bald, I made the decision to love and cherish the hair on my head as a gift from God. And, I love and appreciate every gray, natural hair on my head today.

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    • Thank you Ma’am for the support! I call it self-love.

      Since adolescence, I have always cut my hair every 3 years top because inside of me something has never agreed with the way I treated my head, I did it anyway because I let others decide what my beauty should be.

      I started going grey in my twenties but seeing my mother’s dyed hair I promised myself never to touch the stuff lye or no lye.

      Now when people say my hair suits me, I simply reply – you becha! 🙂

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      • Hahahahahahaha Folakemi. I love this article. I have natural kinky, a bit curly (sometimes) but a hair that responds to my cold water bath and comes out beautifully.

        I love it that you have and maintain your grey hair. I love grey hairs and I’m jealously guarding the few strand on my head.

        I have people constantly asking what I did to my hair and where? Even on a bad hair day, I just can’t bring myself to wear my wigs (gifts anyway). I’m blessed with creativity so I always come up with something on my head.

        GOAT HAIR?! Nah wa o!

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    • I used to cut off my hair every 5 years but after chemo in 2006,I cant do it anymore.Chemo does change the way we perceive hair.

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  10. Even white women wear human hair extensions…I think we Africans are blessed..there are lot of things and styles we can do with our natural hair…I for one can’t wear another person’s hair…talk more of a goat’s…although we can wear wool from the sheep…

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