Derogatory attitude towards rape victims in Nigeria

There are lots of success stories about home, Nigeria and sometimes it is enough to be grateful for how fortunate we are that we are able to survive amid all the atrocities around. People tell you that we have a lot to be grateful for so we should stop moaning and focus on all that is going well, that is true, we are happy and could pretend all is well even though girls the size of half of a village are still held captives under BH. What do we do though, when we try so hard to focus on the good news of our society but the bad news knock us back 20 steps down…

Speaking recently with a friend, he thought rape case in Nigeria is relatively new. Then I narrated the story of my friend’s sister who was gang raped in 1987 when she was in secondary school in my small town. She had trusted her ‘friends’ 5 of them to walk together to an inter-house sports at another school 10 minutes away from their school. On the way to their destination, she was raped by the these school boys. The story leaked to the school as she was traumatised and had to be taken to hospital. On her return to school two days later, sister Yemi was called to stand in front of the whole school during assembly, her story was retold to the whole school by the school principal in derogatory manner –  she was blamed for the whole incidence.  Yemi was in her school uniform so dressed appropriately but her offence as told was that she was too outspoken.

Yemi’s parents were forced to take her to a different school out of town. The boys stayed at the same school to complete their secondary school.

The last few years, almost everyday there is always another rape case, we will all talk about it, girls/women will be blamed for their outfits that are supposedly too revealing. I wonder what the offence of the Benue State University students were to deserve been violated as they were raped in the middle of the night in their hostel. For the most part, the rapists walk away free.

By now we already know that sexual violence and rape is very common all around the world however, attitudes towards victims must change in Nigeria and those responsible must be punished if we ever want to see any change of attitude by the perpetrators.

Enjoy the clip below-

Courtesy of AIDS-Free World



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11 replies

  1. I recently heard a program on the radio (British) about rape.

    http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b0507pmp

    It can be confusing, one can define rape as sex (penile penetration) with someone who doesn’t consent to it.
    Then they started investigating the various scenarios, where it is not clean cut, the case of Ched Evans ( a Welsh football player). Some men try to ‘muddy the waters’, by saying they thought ‘no’ meant ‘yes’.

    In Nigeria, I believe there is no such thing as ‘rape in marriage’, this is a view held by both Christians, Muslims and those who follow traditional beliefs. This is fine for the man, but what about the woman? I see in such a society, they have to fight infinitely harder to have their rights respected. Who will back them? Which man want’s to be sent to prison for raping his wife?

    Despite the uphill battles, one has to start somewhere. Now that I’m an adult the mind boggles at how people seem to be able to find never ending ways of being cruel to one another. What is wrong with people? I dont’ get it…

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    • You are correct regarding rape in marriage in Nigeria context.
      Rape in general be it within wedlock or outside is always blamed on women, and really if you covered from head to toe, someone would still think that is sexually provocative as Nigeria mentality goes.

      I believe there is a correlation between rape case being aired at all and gender equality of such nation. This is why you would have a high profile case such as Ched Evans aired in the Uk. It would not make any serious news in Nigeria.

      It is cruel acts and just a shame that in a place like Nigeria, rapists walk free.

      Yes, agree, lots is wrong with many people however, if they knew they’d be punished, chances are that they’d find a more dignified way to satisfy their desire.

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  2. That is the most annoying part of it, imagine blaming a poor traumatized school girl for the act of rape, will they also blame the 2, 3, 4 year old girls for being raped? Maybe they were dressed indecently?

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  3. How sad it that the victim is being victimized by people who devalue women and girls. Thanks to the strong women’s rights movement in America — things are changing but still a lot of work is still needed. Thank you for sharing.

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  4. The amount of violence against women that goes on in the world is truly shocking. Where is the breeding ground for these negative and violent behaviours? Always rape is a key weapon in any military conflict. Yet these men all have mothers, aunts, sisters, grannies…

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